Last Updated: 26 September, 2020
I’m the main memory recorder in our family, but although everything is captured from my perspective I tend to be missing from view, plus I think there is something different between reading someone’s thoughts and seeing images.. I take the majority of photographs and videos and that means I’m usually hidden behind the camera. I first noticed this in 2009 when I put together a photo book of B’s first year. There are 20 pictures of me (less than two a month) and some of them aren’t great but are the only ones we had. I thought we’d made more effort during my M’s first year, but still I only appear in 23 in his first year photo book and eight of those are ‘out-takes’ as we tried to get our annual family picture. Thanks to the timer, I took a few pictures of myself to include in last year’s Project 52 layouts.
In November last year I saw a title on the BBC website about Hidden Mothers and thought it meant mother’s like me, but no this was about mothers who are hidden in the picture to hold their child during early photography. Looking through the photographs it made me appreciate the wonders of digital photography and the ease of taking photographs, including selfies. However, the pictures stayed with me and I started to think maybe times haven’t changed that much. We take many many pictures these days, but who is taking them, is it always the same person, the hidden mother, father, child or friend?
Therefore, this year I’m planning on making sure there is at least one photograph of me each month and if no one else takes one of me I will have to take my own as I did for the Project 52 layouts. Fortunately, this month I’ve found two pictures of me and both taken by other people. The first by a waitress at a restaurant where I went to a reunion of an old project and the second taken by B after I’d been taking pictures of her; it may not be the most flattering of pictures, but hey its a photograph and I’m celebrating.
How do you capture memories? Who takes the photographs in your house? Do you feel hidden behind the camera?